Another Thanksgiving has come and gone. During this past weekend I had a most blessed time with both my family and my husbands family. Due to circumstances we visited with each family separately, but it was wonderful seeing everyone, smiling, laughing and having a beautiful time. I really am blessed to have such amazing people in my life.
As always, during this time of year I really do look at what I’m thankful for in my life. Like many people, sometimes those things I’m thankful for get lost in the fog of self pity, depression, confusion and so much more. Lucky for me I am usually able to quickly move through those emotions and get back to my regular spunky, optimistic self. And that is something I am truly thankful for this holiday season: my positive personality. I don’t have room to dwell on the negative emotions in my life for long periods of time, so I allow them to run their short lived course, then I pick myself back up.
Thanks so much for sharing your story. My husband and I decided a few years ago to distance from his family for this reason exactly.
Here’s a positive Turkey Day 🙂
I’m glad to hear I’m not the only one with this problem. I was a bit worried I was trying to justify a decision that wasn’t right, but the more I thought about it, the more I figured I wasn’t doing anyone any favors (even her) by inviting her. Sometimes letting the behavior go on is like saying “I’m okay with your actions” thus enabling. She’s been told her behavior isn’t appreciated and it continues. I hope you haven’t had any problems with your decision. I refuse to let anyone bring me down because of mine.
Sadly, I do understand these issues too. And I do not see it ending in my life anytime soon. In fact, I see it continuing on for my kids too. But you have to stand up and make your life a better environment for you and your kids and that is all that matters.
Having that type of person around can be draining for everyone. I’m glad you stuck to your decision and enjoyed the holidays. Hopefully she’ll realize that she needs to change her perception on life or ask for the help she needs to do so.
Kudos to you to sticking with your choice not to invite your sister. I know that must have been very hard to do but you’re right. You can’t have toxic people around I’m a firm believer in that. Its her loss and your sanity.
Too many people think that you should turn the other cheek – all the time, no matter what. I do not agree. There are certain members of my family that I no longer speak with either. You can try and try and then it’s time to realize things won’t change.
I wish you lots of peace with your decision. Don’t let other people tell you how to live your life.
Dawn